This is what I mean about adjusting your expectations to conform to reality.
Until then, each promising man is not actually “real.” He is merely hope, potential and fantasy.
It’s not because you’re a fool for believing that good men exist. He seemed so great, so perfect, so kind, so consistent. If this story feels familiar to you, it’s because it’s familiar to EVERYONE.
It’s not because he’s an evil human being hell-bent on destroying your self-esteem. The reason your heart gets broken each time a new guy disappears is because you are SURPRISED when he disappears. Men disappearing is probably a semi-normal occurrence. And the reason it hurts so badly is simple: our expectations aren’t aligned with reality.
Remembering this will save you a TREMENDOUS amount of trouble when you’re dating online.
No longer will each flaky and disappointing man derail you.